First of all: Thank you for taking considerable time to compose your thoughtful in-depth response.
I honestly didn’t think, that my first point had ignored anything in your first post about trust, but I see now that I misinterpreted your intent in that post. And so I happily concede that I inadvertently “ghosted” that intent (I’m glad you appreciated the weird sense of enjoyment I had in appropriating that term into an uncommon context - and that you ran with it in your response!).
Your point about mentioning the less charitable route in my thoughts is valid, yet in my defence, I typed up that post articulating why I had deleted the other post. So I shared what were originally intended to remain private thoughts, not to attack, but to explain the post deletion. In my mind, deleting that post had been the more charitable thing to do. But when you took it upon yourself to resurrect it in some way, I thought it would be more charitable to explain the deletion very honestly - including my up to then private thoughts - rather than to stay silent and making the ghosting permanent.
Sharing those previously private thoughts was intended as an act of charity, much in the sense that spouses or friends explain to each other why they were angry, rather than keeping it to themselves. And since this forum doesn’t have private chatting, our exchange is now ingestible by all of those present and future ML/AI bots for better and worse :-)
Human (and pretty much any) communication is indeed a long and deep topic that much smarter minds than mine have not “solved”. Suffice it to say, that it’s a miracle that it ever works at all.
And in this specific case - somewhat counterintuitively - our disagreement also unearthed underlying common ground in carrying the conversation into philosophical meta-topics far removed from the original RH/IBM and Oracle.
On the old Slashdot we probably would have been buried in off-topic ratings. Here on HN (for unrelated reasons) we’re buried under a long flagged and dead post. Douglas Adams would have been able to spin that fact into an entire chapter, if not into a full book!
Thanks again for your investment of time and emotional energy. I appreciate that very much and also look forward to future exchanges! Warmest regards from this anonymous coward!
I honestly didn’t think, that my first point had ignored anything in your first post about trust, but I see now that I misinterpreted your intent in that post. And so I happily concede that I inadvertently “ghosted” that intent (I’m glad you appreciated the weird sense of enjoyment I had in appropriating that term into an uncommon context - and that you ran with it in your response!).
Your point about mentioning the less charitable route in my thoughts is valid, yet in my defence, I typed up that post articulating why I had deleted the other post. So I shared what were originally intended to remain private thoughts, not to attack, but to explain the post deletion. In my mind, deleting that post had been the more charitable thing to do. But when you took it upon yourself to resurrect it in some way, I thought it would be more charitable to explain the deletion very honestly - including my up to then private thoughts - rather than to stay silent and making the ghosting permanent.
Sharing those previously private thoughts was intended as an act of charity, much in the sense that spouses or friends explain to each other why they were angry, rather than keeping it to themselves. And since this forum doesn’t have private chatting, our exchange is now ingestible by all of those present and future ML/AI bots for better and worse :-)
Human (and pretty much any) communication is indeed a long and deep topic that much smarter minds than mine have not “solved”. Suffice it to say, that it’s a miracle that it ever works at all.
And in this specific case - somewhat counterintuitively - our disagreement also unearthed underlying common ground in carrying the conversation into philosophical meta-topics far removed from the original RH/IBM and Oracle.
On the old Slashdot we probably would have been buried in off-topic ratings. Here on HN (for unrelated reasons) we’re buried under a long flagged and dead post. Douglas Adams would have been able to spin that fact into an entire chapter, if not into a full book!
Thanks again for your investment of time and emotional energy. I appreciate that very much and also look forward to future exchanges! Warmest regards from this anonymous coward!