I believe it's not quite as simple or black and white as they say. Things generally don't fit into the help others or help yourself category so neatly in real life. Typically if you're in a team, the other team members will be doing things that impact you directly or soon will do.
And focusing on others vs self misses a more reasonable split: brief targeted help and more involved help.
Often in companies, people reinvent the wheel and struggle with problems with well established solutions - provided you can briefly give a pointer and do it with sufficient tact as to not offend then this kind of thing is almost always worth helping with.
Maybe stop being a wage slave and having the mindset of one. I know it is a bit of a hard statement, but life goes MUCH beyond a paycheck.
Let's suppose your friends will be richer in the end of their lives than you.
Should that change you? If yes, then maybe you need to grow up as a stronger person, maybe with hobbies and something beyond a number that receives money in the end of the month.
Being born in a third world country playing soccer on the street with the kids and being poor and now living in Europe, I barely see any change other than I need to live with disgusting people more frequently. This $250k/year life is quite boring, you are the company you work for. I grew up thinking about being great at software, have a lot of friends, this and that, not that I have to make more money than my friends(I make like 100x of the people I was born and lived most of my life with, but it makes no difference). I actually want to maybe help they also to get it. As we are healthy and productive citizens, it is up to us to help who are behind or maybe just need somebody to talk to, or a laugh.
Every raise I get, the less fun people I get to live/work with. I've been fighting against this trend for a while already and my life has been getting much better. It isn't saying that I don't wan t to succeed, but that success for me in my profession has changed. For instance, I would rather have impact(could be in a political party or a movement/be a good husband/good friend etc). Or speak another language(already got a few) etc.
Any type of graph you have, you can use it, just like integrals, to calculate areas etc.
For a lot of things in life we plot graphs. Your software might do it transparently to you, but how it works internally is using mathematical concepts. It is good to know it and I really enjoyed learning it at college, as it opens your mind about how things work. But I don't believe it is a must to know.
It might be upvoted because people find it catchy. But if you have ever wrote code in your life, you know that person who wrote about it got no idea whatsoever about software development.
I'll upvote it as well, as it is possibly the thing with the least amount of intelligence that I've read so far in my life.
You didn't talk about your personal life, but I think you should focus on it. Work is a great enabler, with a good enough salary you can afford to do very exciting things when you are not at work.
And when you are at work, you can try to shape your craft, go to a few conferences, try to get something new to your brain.
Also, enjoy life. The endless search for something better will never end and it is one of your best qualities, but don't let yourself, your body and soul suffer and suppress that by letting it make you depressed.
I was kind of like you, then I found a wife, moved abroad, still work with the same stuff as before, but having to adapt to different contexts, culture and language made me grow a lot personally and also I believe in my job. Maybe consider that. If you are American and know those things, hell, even from a third world country(like I was), you can definitely find a job abroad that will give enough problems to solve(immigration is hard) that will keep you busy for a few years...
Maybe consider saving enough money in order to buy a property over there before moving, that will greatly help you. Other than that, just move there.
If you do that, your cost of living will be lower and in Canada you will have access to good healthcare, education and maybe to enjoy things again which doesn't imply monetary property. I'm pretty sure that overall, you'll have happier and more educated kids. I can imagine the kind of monsters people grow in the USA.
I live in Germany and we have many points like Canada and I just laugh when I hear about "could make more money elsewhere" or "career" in America when life is much softer and nicer here. Sure, things aren't perfect here, but at least people in general care about the environment and the personal space of others, I can easily get a lot of vegetarian/vegan food in Berlin and people are just awesome, many of them, from the US and sick of the state of art country you've got there. If you don't care about this and is a psycho which just want to maximize how much you make and then die, just stay in the US. It is a good place for you to be.
If I had the chance to pick living in the USA or in a first developed country, somewhat decent living conditions and economy. I would definitely pick the second choice.
I seriously wouldn't feel like living in a the same country of Trump, or just the average american mindset. It just looks pretty retarded to me. It's a economy that only exists because it manages to really impose its power around the world, so americans there feel like they got something, but it's always in exchange of somebodys life or happiness. I'm not sure if I would like to tell my kids I'm this kind of person, or my family. I wouldn't feel happy for myself.
But that's just me. Make your choice, but remember, life isn't your salary or your job position.
Huh, kinda harsh there on your judgement of the way of life of 300+ million people, most of whom don't actively seek it or have any reasonable say in it
Still, giving you the benefit of interpreting your point as friendly as I can, I can't help but state that your economical advantage there on one of the richest countries in the world also only exists because it is imposed on others around the world
Never said that here is perfect. The supposition is the following:
- He can move somewhere if he wants(he got the choice, unlike many).
- Country is bad, creates a bad impact in the world than the other country. Also can enjoy as a individual a better quality of life.
- Why stay?
I travel frequently to the US(lately, roughly every year) and that is my observation. Every year I go, my typical restaurants look more cheap and the people more decadent and I'm quite young, so I saw that change since I visited it for the first time, around 20 years ago.
I find it very hard to believe that anything about the american way of doing things(let it be culture or business) is sustainable. The US will probably undergo in some crisis and change, but I wouldn't like to be exactly there and experience it :-)
I was born in a third-world country and at least recently, I've been quite amused at how many things my country started to do much better than the US and some areas look as good as they do in the US, meanwhile I haven't seen anything getting better in the last decade... Have you tried using a bank in the US?
I bet that there is a country in Africa that has a better and faster banking system than in the US.
Maybe if you share another opinion, you could share it as well.
Are you sure this was meant as a reply to my comment? It is way too ranty and so beyond the point of what I wrote that I believe you answered to the wrong post
Damn dude. Maybe brainwashed a little by media ? And US is a continent, people change a lot inside.
Also, what do you think of the male immigrant importation ? Will their happiness be taken from yours (or your daughter's) ? Is it better to give your happiness or take others (if you had a choice) ?
I've also been this guy a few times. Haha.
We both ended in much better positions than our peers, looking 5 years back.